If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging. Find a way out. – Will Rogers
This is known as the law of holes. It’s an adage that has been considered true by many people throughout the world. When I first read this statement I was like what? We have always been listening since childhood to work hard and never lose hope.
Don’t Give Up, You Might Be Close Than You Think
The first thing that popped up in my head was that vivid illustration of two men digging the tunnel and one of them returning back without getting anything when he was very near to the place where the diamonds were buried. He stopped trying, but that was a different phenomenon.
The meaning behind this philosophical statement is that if you find yourself in a difficult situation then stop doing same things again and again and plan a strategy to get your way out.
The hole here symbolizes a kind of situation that has no outlet, you are covered from all the sides and it engulfs you inside. If you have applied one strategy to get out of your problem and you still can’t, then you need to change your strategy.
Stay Calm and Think Things Through
Let’s say, a couple is having issues that they are not being able to sort out. Every single time a discussion turns into an argument, and an argument into a fight. Each time they sit together to talk but end up losing their temper. Now, what are they doing? They are digging again and again. Their situation is complicated, they just can’t get separated because they have kids. They can’t live together either because it seems intolerable. Now what they would need to do is change their strategy. If the discussion doesn’t help, then they will need to try different alternatives. They could maybe consult a couple counselor, take sessions, or at more elaborate and involve their kids, ask them how they feel about all this and maybe go for family therapy. There can be various alternatives but you just need to think.
This was just one of those practical everyday life kind of example to clarify the actual point. Most of the people when given the opportunity to re-think their situation from a different perspective, may then find a way to solve their problem differently.
The truth is that great pressure and conflicts in life decrease our ability to think clearly. In difficult situations, we are prone to making those kinds of mistakes that we would never have made in normal circumstances. That is why its really important to stay calm in our everyday lives. Staying focused, practicing mindfulness is not as much required in routine life as needed in rough times because that’s the time when it gets difficult to focus.
If you cannot do it yourself, seek help from a professional or a trusted friend. So, if your situation isn’t changing then think about where you are going wrong? What steps you aren’t taking? Be aware of the areas you need to work on and don’t just think, act upon it too. When you are willing to make a change, you will find a way out too.
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