Modern day culture tends to label every woman by using stereotypes. We’re seeing more and more women being tagged as “a mother”, “a businesswoman”, “a bad girl”, “the fatal blonde.”
But every woman is unique in nature and life demands more than just labeling everyone with those lousy definitions.
This is exactly what the Russian psychologist Yulia Sviyash explains in her book.
Wisdom.Ninja brings you the 10 Commandments That Might Change Your Life and Your Perception of Yourself. Read on..
1. a True Woman Does Not Run After Tomorrow Chasing Happiness
A real woman does not chase anything. Pursuing happiness is the most popular and empty sport there is. They all run to one side; Looking for a better future, or tomorrow, next year, etc.
A real woman does not engage in this kind of “sport”. She always lives in the present.
2. a True Woman Lives in the Moment
Of course, you can have plans for the future, but don’t postpone life for tomorrow.
Do not expect your real life to begin when you lose weight, when the prince appears on a white horse, when the circumstances are right, etc.
Live here and now.
3. Being a Real Woman Is a Great Privilege and You Need to Understand This
A real woman realizes the fact that she was born a woman and sees a special value in it. For her, being a woman is not a test; it’s not a job, not a cross to bear for life.
It is a gift and a blessing of destiny. A real woman cultivates femininity at all levels: internal (sensations, feelings, thoughts) and external (clothing, body, behavior).
4. Lives at Her Own Pace
If your life is slow, you have no idea what life is. When live is very fast, there’s no time to feel life. Each of us has its own rhythm.
A real woman knows, how to feel the rhythm and live according to it. She regulates changes and therefore adjust her pace according to the circumstances that surround it.
Live in such a way that you can do whatever you want, without losing the taste for life. In your actions, the most important thing is not the amount of movements made over a period of time, but the accuracy of the calculations and the perception of what you are doing and why.Live in such a way that you can do whatever you want, without losing the taste for life. Click To Tweet
5. Always Puts Herself First
This does not mean you should be selfish, indifferent or cynical.
Just know that behind the exaggerated desire to engage with others, lies a hidden fear of living life itself.
A real woman is interested in her own life. She never loses the sense of the value of her personal space. However, at the same time, she is able to give moral support, help and share the lives of others.
Do not say “yes” if your heart says “no.” Always listen and trust your feelings.Do not say 'yes' if your heart says 'no'. Always listen and trust your feelings. Click To Tweet
6. Doesn’t Need the Opinions of Others
In childhood, we are concerned about what our parents, teachers, neighbors, family, friends and colleagues think of us. Some people live their whole life trying not to disappoint others.
Public opinion does not matter to a real woman while other women are ranked according to their marital status: married or single, normal or abnormal, etc. She lives with her own ideas about life, invents and turns them into reality. And if her life does not resemble the living standards of others, it does not bother her one bit.
Let others assess and judge as they please, because you know that the mission to make everyone “like you” is silly and impossible.
A real woman works to improve, but never looks out for the approval of someone. She does it out of love for herself.A #realwoman works to improve only out of the love for #herself. Click To Tweet
7. There Is Much More Than Just Being a ‘good Girl’
The ‘good girl‘ style is a creation of our parents. This character has definitive task task. Like others so that others also agree with what you like.
A ‘good girl’ lives according to the principle ‘I’ or ‘I do not’. She rarely questions what she really wants.
A real woman has ceased to be “a good girl” and has abandoned the desire to be accepted and approved. This does not mean she does not care. She just does not have to prove anything to anyone.
A good girl is obsessed with features that are considered defects. A strong woman accepts them. She does not hide them, or try to change them.A #goodgirl is obsessed with features that are considered defects. A #strongwoman accepts them.. Click To Tweet
8. Not Playing With Melodrama: “Oh, How My Life Is Complicated!”
Looking at her, you never feel that she’s exhausted. She works day and night, washes, cleans, pampers her husband and children. You never realize that she’s tired, putting the house in order. Even when actually she has a lot of workload, a real woman finds time to recover her strength and take care of herself.
She will never consider herself a victim, because she knows that the circumstances are not as difficult as our attitude towards them.A real woman finds time to recover her strength and take care of herself. Click To Tweet
9. Loneliness Is a Gift
A real woman values and appreciates moments of solitude, if any. She does not seek to involve casual friends or men in her life not to feel alone.
Being alone is a blessing. It is the best time to recover, fill your life with peace and depth.
A real woman accepts it for what it is and always enjoys her solitude.A real woman accepts it for what it is and always enjoys her solitude. Click To Tweet
10. She Loves Her Age. Always!
A real woman lives in her present, at her real age, enjoying all its advantages. She does not refer to it as “at this age it is too late” or “too early” for me to do something.
This philosophy is for those who use their fears as an excuse to hide their internal prohibitions.
A real woman can do it all and at any age. Therefore, she will never feel sorry for not being able to do something.
This does not mean that she does not care or does not seek to be mature. She just does not make attempts to look younger than she actually is, as she was 20 years ago.
She knows that every age has its beauty, sensuality and charm.A real woman knows that every age has its beauty, sensuality and charm. Click To Tweet